Reginald Said:

I feel stuck. I've become addicted to parties?

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I won't pretend that I am an expert at resolving problems, because everyone has some. What you wanted to know was what people think... so here it is:
One thing that's positive about this whole thing is that you realize the problem and you want to fix it. Some people won't even admit that they have a problem.
And I am too a 17 year old... girl, not guy :p
and yea, parties could be a hell of a ride but too much of it doesn't make it special anymore. It's like... say chocolate cake (sorry for the terrible metaphor) everyone loves them, but too much of it gets rid of the thrill of eating it. So perhaps for this party addiction of yours you could balance it... say like promise to yourself to only go to parties 4 times a month or something, that way you learn more self control and the satisfaction of achieving something and don't depend on it for your happiness.
And take in what I'm gonna say now- I don't even feel like I fit in at times, as I'm sure a lot of us too. Sure there are those moments that I feel like I belong in my group, but there are things beyond that too. It's not always the people or the place, the only way to make yourself feel you belong is not to change yourself, but it's about accepting who you are and be comfortable in your own skin. Don't worry about getting brownie points from your friends.
Let me tell you how I spend my weekends: I'm either at work or at home, just chillin. Go on the net, look up funny stuff (like this video blogger on youtube: charlieissocoollike) <--- you should check that out if you don't know about it... or look up shirts online with funny sayings (snorgtees.com) and you know just have a laugh. Another thing I do to keep myself happy is when one of my friends say something amusing I write it down in a random book I have with me so when I'm sad I could look back on it and be like... hey! look at that, good things do happen in my life :)
I even started a blog with my friends documenting the funny things we say to each other and funny quotes from books and movies... more things to look back to when I'm feeling the blues! woop!
Sorry... I was getting off topic. Back to you! :)
As much as I wish I am as wise as master Yoda I'm only a teenage girl, so the only advice I could give you is to find the amusing things in your life and write it down (in a book, computer, etc.. wherever you want) and just look back at it when you feel like you don't belong or when you feel alone. And you also said that you realise that you're a "jerk" ? honestly, I don't think a real jerk will admit that he's a jerk... so I'm sure that nice guy will come out eventually :) you did say you were like kyle kingsbury and he's not a total asshole in the end. Self espression is also a good way to get rid of all those bad emotions (for me is song writing/painting... I'm arty that way :p) you said you did modelling and acting? so that's one thing you could look deeper into to reflect your emotions. And as for your addiction, don't hang on to a single thread that could easily be broken and don't limit yourself to possibilities, it sounds like you've gone far since you started to realise these problems. Keep trying and be patient and you'll get there. I wish I could help you a lot more than just words - people do say it's easier said than done... but it's all I can do for now.

Ricardo Said:

How can I get my mom to stop asking my inappropriate questions?

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This is really very inappropriate of your mother to keep "hounding" you about your father. It's none of her business for one thing. She should NOT be talking to you her daughter about your own father's sex life! She should know better than to do this to you & put you in the position she's putting you in. Shame on her, & I truly mean it! They've divorced & she should be completely out of his life, out of his business by now. You have to be living with her for another whole yr. & this cannot/should not keep going on as it is. It's like she's possessed with him & his life! IF you don't feel comfortable talking to her in person about it, why don't you just sit down & write her a letter. Let her know you're writing it because you don't even feel comfortable discussing it with her in person. Tell her you do not "pry" into your father's person life, & certainly of all things NOT his sex life! In fact the less you know about what he does personally the better off & the easier it is for you. Tell her it's bad enuf you feel uncomfortable to be discussing it with your own mother let alone your father. You're both their child & you feel you are being put in the middle of something you should not be involved in or even discussing. This IS SO true!!! I'd even go as far as to say it's starting to get to you mentally & is hurting you to think of your parents in this way. You feel it's none of your business, which it sure isn't, & would she PLEASE PLEASE be so kind to you & stop even mentioning your father to you. Let her know it's beginning to disturb you in a negative way & you don't like feeling this way at all as it's uncomfortable for you. So from now on, would she please try to think of you & your feelings & the hurt it's all doing to you. If she wants to know anything about him, tell/ask her to please ask him herself instead. You just don't feel you should suffer from their mistakes which is what is happening to you. Honey, you MUST say something to her as I don't feel it's fair you must go thru this for another whole yr. Again, shame on her for putting you in this position. For someone who is suppose to be so "well educated", she sure isn't educated on "life's level" of living. She may be "book smart", but that sure is the extent of her great knowledge of life, how to treat people, especially her own daughter. I would never do this to my 3 children, I couldn't hurt them in that way. You MUST do it once & for all & put an end to this total childish nonsense. Pretty much say what I've stated & that should get across to her to stop what she's doing to you as it's not a bit fair to you in any way shape or form. Get on the computer & write her a letter & leave it for her to find even when you're not there if that would be easier on you. Please for yourself do it & get it out in the open & over with once & for all. You do NOT deserve to be put in the middle of your parents business. Honey, I strongly suggest you do this as soon as you can & end it...I DO wish you the best...:)

Rene Said:

how do i get my permanent residency if i have bin in the U.S for 20yrs?

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What visa are you here under? Without knowing your status,your question can't be answered.

You cannot get permanent residency on your own if you are here on TPS. If your countries TPS is ever discontinued,you will have to return. Your only option to get residency while on TPS is to get married and have your spouse petition for you. You can still go to college and find a better job once you are done because you do have permission to work in the US.
TPS is just that,temporary. It can end at any time.