Theresa Said:

What did you do for yourself after your divorce?

We Answered:

Oh! Ms. Lee, I take it that your looking for a new cowboy to fill those lonely nights? Although I have never been married, I think I have the possibility of serving your needs very well. Plus, you will not have any bad habits to change, since I have never been exposed to any marriages, other than the occasional married woman that just want to go for a ride on my horse. But, you wouldn't hold that against me would you?

Mattie Said:

Dealing with midlife crisis?

We Answered:

60 is a mid-life crisis if the expectancy is to live on to be 120. LOL. you just stated all the reasons why. mid-life is in the 40's. his is an end of life evaluation and for what you are posting here, the picture he is seeing is not good. he is trying to hold on for dear life to those logs that pass him by that might keep his head above water on that ocean of turmoil that his life has become. im sure that when he saw himself reaching that age this wasnt the picture he had in mind that his life was going to become. he is trying to make some sense of what it all means, if actually life passed him by.

read articles about developmental psychology, the late adult stage. you might get to understand the situation better and be in a spot that you can handle it and help. good luck to you.

Charlie Said:

Please help me make an important educational and / or career decision?

We Answered:

I would have to know what your other degree was in and your job prospects. I can tell you this - if you can land a job with a company you may get more opportunities to move around.

The job I have today in no way resembles what I went to college to "be".

Angel Said:

I am turning 30 in a week!!!!! Why does it feel so scary?

We Answered:

Hi Nice,
I have 12 years on you. Thirty was MUCH harder then turning fourty. I had many of the same fears. sometimes still do.
I think you hit on something though, maybe somewhere deep down you have a nagging feeling you should be doing more with your life by now.

You are having a time in life meant to sit back, evaluate and decide what direction you want to go. Set some goals and start to work towards them (this also has the WONDERFUL side effect of great self-esteem as you move closer to your goal).

You've been a real adult since 18, maybe it has been a nagging subconcious thought for a while that by 30 you should be doing "XYZ". AT 42,. I don't feel that much older than at 22, but a hell of a lot wiser. I can personally thank Laura's School of Hard Knocks and Slower Learning for that.

What I did in my 30's? I started them like you...wondering if I should do more. A financial set-back due to divorce convinced me to go to school (I did it!) and secure a better job.

The high anxiety leaves just like it came on...about a week after the birthday. Still, this is a great opportunity for growth and change. You can play the "when I grow up" game and pick one option and do it.

Good Luck!