Rose Said:

Important question about state and federal law enforcement background checks?

We Answered:

Yes, you must answer truthfully. The key is how long it has been since you did the drugs and what you have done since that time. If you have moved away from such behaviors and your background substantiates that, you should be ok. Lying will get you disqualified from any federal, state or local law enforcement position forever, as well as being given security clearances. Since you have already been denied employment because of drug use, it's on record somewhere and will be found in a thorough background investigation. Be honest and you'll be fine. Many LE people have used drugs at one time or another.

Josephine Said:

Master Degree in Counseling?

We Answered:

Teacher or along those lines.

Sherri Said:

What states do not require a polygraph test before hiring?

We Answered:

As I understand it past drug use will not likely disqualify you, as long as you are honest about it. It is my understanding that the use of the polygraph test is to determine if you are an honest individual more then to determine if you have ever done anything "wrong" in your life.
I would recommend you go ahead, apply for the job and follow through on anything they ask of you to obtain the job including the polygraph test. You never know, you may just get hired.

Marshall Said:

Why are children wanting to have sex at such a young age?

We Answered:

Adolescence is all about image. How your peers perceive you and how you can fit inside a group. It's a period where you question a lot of things and sometimes you see your family as the "enemy". That's why it's hard for some teenagers because they feel that they don't fit in anywhere. I, for example, had a hard time when I was a teenager. I felt that my family couldn't understand me at all and I thought that my friends were more important. I wanted to be cool and fit in rather than be myself and have others approach me for who I truly was. I felt angry and lost most of the time and I had many fights with my mom and dad who were trying to approach me but I wouldn't let them. Likely, it was just a phase and nothing bad happened to me.

It is important to have a good relationship with your children and try to remember that you are not their friend but their mother. I get irritated when I see parents talk about their children like they are their best buddies :p. It's two different roles. A parent is a parent and a friend is a friend. It's good that you are open with your children and you try to educate them about sex. Be informative but don't scare them. Sex is a basic need and when you are a teenager your hormones dance like maniacs :p. If your children know everything on how to protect themselves and you trust them, then you have little to worry about. Leave the choice to them. I know it's difficult but you can't be with your children 24/7. You can't be certain what they are doing all of the time. So, it's better to build an open and honest relationship with them and trust them to choose when it will be the right time for them. Education about sex is very important. And it is even more important to hear it from you rather than a friend who will probably misinform them.

What makes you decide you want to have sex at such an age you ask. Sometimes it's the pressure to fit in. Sometimes it's because you fell in love and want to get close with the other person. Sometimes it's because you feel the need. Some parents educate their children and some parents don't because they don't know how or because they believe that not talking about sex is a reassurance that that won't happen. No one wants the financial or emotional burden of a child at such an age. Girls don't believe that they will get pregnant or they don't even think about it or they are simply misinformed. You don't ask your parents about sex because you feel embarrassed or because you are scared that your parents will start to get worry or you don't think that they will understand you. That's why it's very important to talk with your children because they will get the information about sex one way or the other. Would you rather they get it from a friend or from you?

Be honest, informative and let them know that whatever they decide you will be there. Don't choose for them even if you think that you know better. It's their life, their body. If you trust them and they trust you then you can be certain that they will make the right decision based on what it feels right to them and not to you. And if you feel that you don't know how to handle things it wouldn't hurt to ask the opinion of a psychologist.

Edit: I just saw the additional details you gave. The age I was referring to was 15-17. At the age of 10-14, in my opinion, your are not ready for sex. I can't imagine why a 10 year old child would want to have sex. Maybe out of curiosity but more in terms of kisses or touches and not the actual thing. Maybe they themselves were a product of abuse and they are confused or they try to hurt other children because that's what they have learned (that's highly hypothetical from my part, no offense meant). Maybe they are more mature physically and emotionally from other children of their age.

But my answer to you stands. I read the details you gave about your abuse. It's really brave of you to share it with us and I can't imagine how traumatic this must have been. It's really hard not to be scared about your children but try not to pass your experience to them. Sometimes parents don't understand that they project their fears to their children. Your children aren't you. Your life won't be theirs. I understand that you want to protect them but in my opinion you will do that better if you try to inform them rather than scare them. You would be surprised at what lengths children can go to make their parents proud. And that's the reason why many children neglect what they want for the sake of their parents. In many cases they live their parents life rather than their own.

Alma Said:

I'm falling apart... I'm in tears... i need help but not medical...?

We Answered:

OH gosh sweetheart no! dont kill ytourself!! never ever ever try that again <3.

"but please no one answer and say.. go to a medical hospital, or go talk to someone.. because i don't have anyone.. so please can someone help me.. i don't know how.. but i have no where else to turn :'( please </3"

You have someone now sweetheart. your story nearly moved me to tears and I know you dont deserve this crap.(YOU know you dont deserve it for that matter) You can always talk to me<3 hareema_ameerah@yahoo.ca<-- if u put .com it wont work.

You need to contact the DSS again and tell them you want out. you would be surprised how much YOUR opinion matters.

Stop crying over your father. If he was too stupid to recognize you for the sweetheart you are hes a douche therefore not worth it.

love dont give up. its true, its always darkest before dawn <3

Bill Said:

got a job offer from west african medical centre,how can i know is it authentic or not?

We Answered:

yes